I caught myself feeling particularly lonely a few days ago. It’s hard when social media in particular makes it seem like everyone’s having the time of their lives. Selfies of friends having sleepovers, ambiguous inside jokes, pictures with hundreds of likes of random landscapes or blurry images that quite frankly aren’t that interesting but they have enough followers that will approve of anything they post, you know what I mean. I joked once to my mom that I could literally post that I won a million dollars and want to share it and I would get—max 12 likes on Instagram.
I think sometimes it can be easy to feel like no one is validating your existence. You maybe hang out with friends once a month IF that. People get too busy to check in with a text or call. The highlight of your week is catching up on tv shows on Free on Demand since you were too tired to stay up past 9 pm on a weeknight. Right? Maybe I’m projecting here.
Or better yet, you can feel like the same people are being honored/praised/included/invited and you have enough self worth to know you could possibly at one point or another deserve those things but you are in the shadows. For whatever reason you aren’t noteworthy or noticed. And you know what? That’s okay.
I used to be way more co-dependent about things like that when I was in grade school/high school/ even in college. But as I get older–in a healthy way–I’ve learned to not care. Granted I’m human and the enemy can whisper things to make you question your worth and you can be reminded of past feelings of inadequacy but it’s important to reel that all in. If the God of the Universe keeps a careful eye on me, if He is pleased with me, does it really matter if no one else is?
An Excerpt from Isaiah 54 MSG:
Don’t be afraid—you’re not going to be embarrassed.
Don’t hold back—you’re not going to come up short.
You’ll forget all about the humiliations of your youth,
and the indignities of being a widow will fade from memory.
For your Maker is your bridegroom,
his name, God-of-the-Angel-Armies!
Your Redeemer is The Holy of Israel,
known as God of the whole earth.
You were like an abandoned wife, devastated with grief,
and God welcomed you back,
Like a woman married young
and then left,” says your God.
……Lay your foundations with sapphires,
construct your towers with rubies,
Your gates with jewels,
and all your walls with precious stones.
All your children will have God for their teacher—
what a mentor for your children!
You’ll be built solid, grounded in righteousness,
far from any trouble—nothing to fear!
far from terror—it won’t even come close!
If anyone attacks you,
don’t for a moment suppose that I sent them,
And if any should attack,
nothing will come of it.
……This is what God’s servants can expect.
I’ll see to it that everything works out for the best.
And so I believe that with each day we all need to grow in our trust and relationship with who God created us to be and who God says we are. People will always fail us. People will fail to appreciate us. People will find other things to do that are more fun than hanging out with us. People will choose the easy road. People will abandon us. People will do all sorts of things. But God will always see to it that everything works out–and not only works out but works out for the best.
So when you are feeling lonely or overlooked remember that the God who owns everything who made everything chose you. Wanted you. Pursued you. Keep your perspective on the main thing which is Him and not on what everyone around you finds praise-worthy.
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