Community Feature – thoughtsbytiffanie

One of my new initiatives is to hear from my followers in a way that directly meets them on their journeys.

On Instagram I encourage you to tag your posts with #unfilteredchristianwomen so I can see what everyone is up to and feature topics that they are currently thinking about or needing feedback on.

My goal will always be to write a blog post each month on a topic from my own heart BUT I also want to make room for another post that same month directly addressing a topic found via Instagram using the community hashtag.

This month I am featuring a post from: @thoughtsbytiffanie *

“He didn’t bring you this far to leave you. He hasn’t freed you from your past and from sin so that you could walk around still bound. No, he came to set you free and give you an abundant life. It doesn’t always look the way we want and sometimes takes longer than we’d like, but you’re not being punished – you’re being protected. You’re not being punished, you’re being prepared. Stay on the course, follow His way, and let the Word be a light for your path when you can’t see what’s next.”

The topic that stuck out to me about what Tiffanie said was “time”. Time is a funny thing when you are a Christian. It’s not always easy to “be of good cheer” or to not “despise these small beginnings” like the Bible instructs us. As believers we can either pretend everything is cool with us all the time and that we never freak out about God’s timing or we can find ourselves in a glass case of emotion like Ron Burgundy.

For me waiting is not really a virtue. Ha! I think it’s a constant struggle and a battle of the mind and heart. Some days it’s simply accepting that I’m not where I want to be in my Instagram following, other times it’s despair from waiting on the Lord to provide for my family or answer a prayer request.

I think Tiffanie’s post is a great reminder that things are not always going to look like we thought they would. But that doesn’t mean that we aren’t on the right track.

Comment below with how you can keep yourself grounded and not panic on the course.

* Original post here: 

Jesscbnyc Recommends: Causebox

I kept seeing this on Pinterest and tucked it away in my memory as something that would be cool to do. I love the idea of buying products that benefit people’s lives and while I know some organizations, I wanted to learn more. So, I finally signed up!

Why I recommend it:

  • Socially conscious brands
  • Learning about new charities/businesses
  • Beautiful packaging
  • Variety of products



First of all how BEAUTIFUL is the shipping box it comes in? I love it! Packaging is a huge plus when buying online and it was such a joy to get it. I’m thinking about recycling it for storage in my room.


Here are some of the products I received in the Spring Box:




Altru: Hand sewn “Stay true” Canvas Pennant created by female artisans in India.

Lili Arnold: Be You Print by local CA artist.




THX: Each candle is hand-poured by a young adult with special needs. And the facility helps them learn life-skills and training.

This Bar Saves Lives: Each bar provides a food packet to a hungry child.




Braid: Each purchase helps provide for homeless children.

Sasa Designs: Each purchase provides long term employment and empowerment


First Impressions:

Altru: This was the first thing I saw as I opened the box. I love it. I can’t wait to hang it up.

Lili Arnold: I plan to hang this up in my office at work.

THX: I love candles. This one smells great and I kid you not, when I read the lid my heart leapt. My brother is Schizophrenic, and I love that this company provides a service for young adults with special needs.

This Bar Saves Lives: I love this. I like eating Kashi Bars or KIND Bars and I think this serves a better purpose.

Braid: I don’t often spray my linens, but if I wanted to buy Febreeze or something, I would rather purchase this product.

Sasa Designs: I’ve discovered in recent years that my pierced ears do not like metal, so I plan to give these to my mom. I love the idea of supporting a company like this for jewelry if you don’t have allergy issues.

Which product did you like best? Would you use any of these?

To check it out go here.

SOAP 4.14.17

Good morning!⠀

This morning I had my tea and am ready to dive into a SOAP for you guys.⠀

For those who don’t know, SOAP stands for:⠀


Scripture: Psalm 127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.

Observation: God must be the cornerstone.

Application: In order to build my own success I need to wait for God. He is the foundation and the best builder, not me.

Prayer: God help me to wait on you to build things so I don’t strive for something I am not capable of doing on my own.

Comment below with your O, A, or P!⠀

Feelings aren’t facts

I remember someone told me this once and it stuck with me: Feelings aren’t facts. As someone who relies a lot on my gut instinct and emotions. This can be a little off-putting. But I think, especially when it comes to feelings, we can allow ourselves to be beaten down by negative self-talk and the perception that we aren’t enough. Here are some quick examples that I’ve thought just in the past year:

You might feel like you’re a failure, but fact: You aren’t.

You might feel like you are ugly, but fact: You aren’t.

You might feel like you can’t do anything right, but fact: You are smarter than you think.

I was washing my face or brushing my teeth the other day, all I remember is that I was in front of the sink, and I felt like God was reminding me that there were times in my life where I didn’t think I was good enough, and so I cheated on a test here and there, or whatever the case might have been. It wasn’t from a place of shame having done those things, but more like, why do you think so little of yourself? And this is something that you’ve had to fight feeling since you were a little girl.

I still remember being in elementary school and changing one of my answers to what the kid next to me had. I thought my answer was correct, but I felt like the boy next to me was smarter. After I erased and circled the new answer, one of my teachers saw, and said after we turned them all in, I wanted to tell you that you had the right answer the first time around, trust yourself.

I’ve never forgotten that.

Unfortunately I’ve been struggling a bit more than normal the past month thinking about how my Instagram page isn’t as popular as other women in my vertical.  Vertical is an advertising term. It’s when you’re in the same industry, you are appealing to the same audience, and it can often creep up on you because you feel like, why am I not as successful? Am I adding value to the market here? It can be a killer to the self-esteem and perseverance you need when you are attempting to build your dreams.

I decided to do something a little silly the other day. I’m so used to analyzing reports for clients in the advertising world and I decided to put my own worries about being “popular” or “important” to the test.

I pulled up three accounts that I felt like were really killing it when it came to my life as a Christian blogger. I looked through their profile and tried to find the lowest likes they got on average and rounded them up or down. Then I took that number and how many followers they had to see what their engagement was like and I have to say I was surprised.

  1. Lowest likes: 600 Followers: 26,400 = 2.27%
  2. Lowest likes: 650 Followers: 16,600 = 3.92%
  3. Lowest likes: 500 Followers: 8,400 = 5.95%


Me: On my lowest day the average “likes” are around 60.

If you take 60 and my current following of 611. 60 is 9.8% of 611.

Okay so maybe that’s a fluke right? Let’s see if I do the reverse with highest likes:

  1. Highest likes: 900 Followers: 26,400 = 3.41%
  2. Highest likes: 750 Followers: 16,600 = 4.52%
  3. Highest likes: 650 Followers: 8,400 = 7.73%

Me: On my highest day the average “likes” are around 100.

If you take 100 and my current following of 611. 100 is 16.37% of 611.

Like are you shocked? I’m still shocked. My feelings are still telling me: no one cares what you are writing. You’ve been doing this for years and no one seems to be following you. What’s the point when you aren’t doing as well as everyone else? Your style doesn’t seem that great. Where’s your awesome selfies? LOL. You know what I mean?

And yet, my feelings, are clearly not the facts.

I didn’t do this to make myself out to be the winner compared to these profiles that are KILLING it. I did it out of curiosity because too many times I’ve asked myself: It seems like everyone has tons of likes and followers. Am I a loser?

If you’ve ever felt the way I have and you want to reach other Christian women, let’s remind ourselves that we’re occupying our space. We matter. We’re making a difference. The people who are liking our photos and reading our captions matter.

Also just for fun, I did a bit of googling and created this graphic in Easil:

Potential Impact.png


It keeps everything in perspective because there are plenty of women to reach, plenty of people to reach, in just the USA alone.

This has helped me keep any negative feelings in perspective!

Comment below so I can hear what you think!

Tools Used:

It seems like everyone has tons of likes. Am I a loser?

How many women are Christians in the US? (The 2014 U.S. Religious Landscape Study)

How many Christians in the US? (This ABCNEWS/Beliefnet poll)

How many women are there in the US? (Census is every 10 years)

Seasonal Refresh

I don’t always remember to take time to fill out the seasonal refreshes inside the Horacio Printing planners, but I’m taking a risk and exposing the pages I have filled out so far.


The first page of the Spring Refresh contains a seasonal prayer and 3 lines to fill out with what you are believing for this season. Sometimes it can be hard to dream big in the midst of a season where you aren’t seeing much, but I think it’s important to stretch and dream bigger. Dream God sized dreams not my sized dreams.

Spring Seasonal Refresh

The second page revolves around Generosity Planning. This is where you make room for more prayer and time and finances. Sometimes we can get lost in what needs to be done and the day to day, but it’s always a good reminder to stop and make sure you aren’t wandering off track.


Generosity Spring Seasonal Refresh


The last page I filled out was the Heart Check page where you are encouraged to be honest with yourself. This page can definitely be a little awkward to fill out depending on what you are going through but it’s still important to be real and release yourself from some bad feelings or emotional burdens.


Heart Spring Seasonal Refresh


Do you have the same planner? If not, feel free to do this exercise on your own.

  1. What can you believe for this season? Pick three.
  2. Who and what can you make time for this season? Prayer-wise, time-wise, and money-wise?
  3. What fears, forgiveness, or emotional burdens do you need to let go of this season?


Join the conversation below in the comments or with the rest of the community on Instagram here.

He Chose the Nails – Devo Highlight – Week 5

Video for today:

I had received an e-mail opt in for this study and I wanted to share it with everyone. I will be posting all of the information here and you can choose to follow along with me on WordPress, Instagram, or via my e-mail opt in here:

My thoughts on Session 5: “He Chose to Give Us Victory”

  • What song will I play? Tragedy or victory?
  • Jesus was the victory
  • Death does not have to be tragic, Jesus gave us new life through him – true victory is living forever with Him.


  • Do you have a sour tune? Or have you allowed yourself to be a new “trumpet”?
  • Did you learn something new today?
  • What would you replace ‘everything’ with in Romans 8:28?

My biggest takeaway from this was remembering I can replace “everything” and encourage my soul using Romans 8:28.